About therapy

    It is a common belief that our suffering is caused by others and by circumstances outside ourselves. The question; ‘What am I doing to contribute to this suffering?’ is the first question that can begin to take us from victim hood to responsibility. This question is at the heart of therapy. In order to explore and come to understand how we perpetuate our own unhappiness we must be courageously honest with ourselves. This is hard to do on our own. Therapy can offer the support, encouragement and challenge necessary to discover the answer to our first questions. We can then go on to refine the questions to help us open more and more to the world around us, to others and to our own authenticity and potential.
    If we do not become aware of the habits of thought, speech and behavior which contribute to our own and others suffering, if we live ‘an unexamined life’ we may find ourselves locked in seemingly safe but often stifling or even destructive ways of living and relating. Psychotherapy offers one way of helping us understand the roots of the difficulties we may be experiencing.
    Therapy can not offer instant solutions or advice but it does offer guidance and support for you to discover your own solutions. Trust and a non-judgmental attitude are the most important elements of the relationship between therapist and client. Within a safe environment you can explore your feelings and thoughts freely. It is often by facing difficulties that we can discover most about ourselves and gain insight into who we are and what choices we can make. With a willingness to do this we can find the inner resources which enable us to live more fully.
Some typical issues are:
Personal: anxiety, depression, lack of confidence, feeling stuck in familiar patterns, the need to discover a sense of direction in life, anxiety or depression. Support and guidance in exploring your inner world.
Relationships: difficulties with partner, family or friends, bereavement, separation, loneliness.
Existential: exploring ones own sense of meaning, facing the basic questions of life and death, exploring your relationship with the world,
Spiritual: opening to spirituality and its place in one’s life, questions about what it is, and about seeking a spiritual path, discovering your own ethics and values.

What to expect.

At the first meeting we will discuss the issues that you would like to look at. Together we can clarify what it is you need. Sessions are fifty minutes long and take place weekly or more frequently if you wish. Some evening sessions may be available. Some people find that a short series of sessions is all they require while others may opt for longer on-going therapy.
    As well as being a means to help us heal from the pain and difficulty of our lives, psychotherapy can also offer an opportunity to further our understanding of ourselves and how we relate with others. The psychotherapist acts as a facilitator in this process as well as being a valuable mirror in which we can begin to see ourselves more clearly.